Helping Professionals Find and Sustain Love in Life

HonnolDCounseling helps professionals manage professional demands and their personal isolation to find a romantic partner.

Despite career success, many professionals have difficulty finding a romantic partner:

• “I would like to find a wife, but I have no time to go out.  I’m always working.”
• “I’m desperate to find a husband and have children, but I can’t balance life with the demands of my work.”
• “At work, I’m so demoralized.  When I come home, I only want to watch TV.”
• “I haven’t taken two weeks off for a vacation in over twenty years.”
• “I’m tired of dating.  Nothing ever seems to work out for me.”
• “I have obsessional thoughts about women who could never marry me.”
• “I always fall in love with married men.”
• “I can’t find good men.  Men always seem to be looking for younger women.”
• “Even if I find someone, I’m afraid it won’t work out, and I’ll get hurt.”
• “I don’t feel attractive any more.  I’m getting older, and feel like it’s too late.”
• “Even if I get married, I fear I’ll get bored, feel trapped, and wish I were single again.”
• “Everyone I know is getting a divorce.  So why get married?”
• “I’ve tried everything.  Nothing works.”

Finding a life partner may be of central importance to you, especially if you are single and in your 20s, 30s and early 40s, or recovering from a divorce or loss of a primary relationship at any stage of life:

• Partnering is “normal”:  Marrying, or finding a life partner, may feel essential to you.  Without a partner, you may feel your life is “incomplete.”
• A developmental milestone:  Partnering is a “rite of passage” from single life to family life.
• Emotional maturity:  Partnering may reflect your emotional growth from dependence on your family of origin, to interdependence with a peer adult.
• Companionship and intimacy:  Partnering fosters companionship, emotional intimacy, and sexual expression,
• Raising children:  Partnering with another may involve conceiving and raising children.
• Filling the gap: If you were once married but are now divorced or widowed, life may feel “empty” and without meaning until you find someone to love.

HonnolDCounseling can work with you on partnering issues, addressing:

• Why it may be so difficult for you to find a “match.”
• Why your intimate relationships may be short-lived.
• Why you may pursue intimate relationships with “unavailable” partners.
• Why sexual intimacy with others may be difficult or unsatisfying for you.
• How partnering issues may reflect unresolved issues from childhood.
• The importance of developing personal interests that “match” with those of someone else.

If you are single, and either prefer or expect to remain single, HonnolDCounseling can also help you appreciate the advantages of remaining on your own:

• increased autonomy;
• financial independence;
• greater control over use of time and outside interests;
• ability to develop your career without distraction;
• ability to maintain personal health and health practices;
• freedom from struggle with someone else over housekeeping issues;
• ability to sustain eccentric or idiosyncratic habits;
• option to experience many loves and lovers;
• opportunities to travel, and to do so at your own pace and style;
• enjoying greater time with friends and other family.

Personal relationships provide a cornerstone of life. HonnolDCounseling can help you design and implement the personal life that you want, find the love you need, contend with the losses you suffer, and achieve the highest degree of emotional maturity of which you are capable.